Mindfulness is not about fixing yourself. Nor should you begin mindfulness practice with the intention of achieving an outcome or learning a quick control technique that helps you get rid of an experience that you don’t like. These are some of the first things I remember learning and being confused about when I did my Mindfulness training some years ago. I was confused because that is exactly how I had been selling Mindfulness to my clients prior to that point and in all honesty it was why I had signed up to the course-to improve myself. And so if learning to be mindful wasn’t about fixing myself or achieving an outcome then what was it about?
And what was the point of doing it, I remember thinking with my achievement driven brain? I have to tell you that the answer to that was a bit of a revelation to me. Because what I learnt in the forthcoming months of my training was that learning to be mindful is really a journey of self-discovery.
I learnt that Mindfulness practice encourages you to become more curious, aware and acceptant of your experiences, even the ones that are uncomfortable. That its teachings help you to look underneath and beyond these surface experiences, seeing them for what they really are.
I also learnt that when Mindfulness is practiced for the long-haul it can be something of a life changer rather than a temporary fix. And although there are many benefits to being mindful-backed up by a continual surge of evidence: it can potentially enhance your immune system, help you cope with chronic illness and change your brain structure to help you cope with anxiety, improve focus and attention.
These sorts of benefits happen so much more smoothly when you relax the demands or expectations of an outcome. When you learn to accept all of your experiences and then learn to let them go.
Finding time and space:
Formal meditation practice usually involves sitting in a quiet space with your eyes closed in a relaxed, upright posture for a period of time. I would recommend 10 minutes for a beginner, building this up to 30 minutes daily. I often do my weekly sitting practice in my car during my work schedule and have set up a little shrine in my caravan that sits outside in my driveway, so that I have some dedicated space that I can retreat to regularly.
Sitting practice can be incorporated into any busy schedule. And you really can utilize any space that is relatively quiet and comfortable!
Gently refocusing on the present moment:
Being mindful involves you gently and persistently bringing your attention back to the present moment-focusing attention on your breath that is always in the present. This is usually a good place to start. You typically stay with the breath, perhaps noticing the rise and fall of your chest, or the in-and-out movement of your belly. You could follow the breath using counting or use statements like ‘just relaxing’ or ‘just doing nothing’. You will also develop the ability to notice when your mind has wandered and gently bring it back to the breath-doing this without attachment or reprise and simply starting again.
- Sessions last 45 Mins
Group pricing can be negotiated.
For more details or to book individual or group mindfulness sessions do not hesitate to contact me